Last summer we embarked Luca on the potty training journey. He seemed ready by all means. He warned us when he was about to go in his diaper. He kept his diaper dry for long periods of time. He expressed discomfort when his diaper was wet.
I found a cute frog-face potty to make the process fun for Luca, stacked up on Blue's Clues stickers that could be used as rewards, and read the section on "potty learning" in my What to Expect the Toddler Years To our surprise, Luca is still having several "accidents" a day. Although he was physically ready to be potty trained, his psychological readiness is another story.
Eight months after we started potty training, it seems like we are making little progress. He does not warn us when he needs to go potty, refuses to go when we take him, and tends to have "accidents" when we are tending to Andre. The funny thing is, that he learned to use the potty very quickly. As soon as the novelty wore off, however, so did his willingness to use it.
This week, we've decided to try yet another approach (we've tried several already): continue the rewards and accolades, let him "stew" a little so he feels the discomfort of soggy pants, and discontinue any type of attention when an "accident" happens. In other words, treat accidents as matter of factly as we can. It dawned on us that the immediate response and the caring scolding Luca has been getting when he has an accident might be perceived as rewarding to him. I'll report later on the effect of this method.
In the mean time, I keep consoling myself with the thought that this is just a phase and that we are learning valuable lessons for when Andre is "ready" to potty learn.