The golden rule, "treat others as you'd like to be treated," works well when those others have preferences that are similar to ours. I find, however, that the platinum rule, "treat others as they'd like to be treated," is better appreciated.
The platinum rule comes to mind when I am raising my children. Although Luca and Andre are similar in many ways, they are also unique little men with wants and preferences. Luca did a lot of heavy work in training me to parent him. Stories bore him if we linger on a page a little too long (as in long enough to read what they say) so I have abbridged versions that I speed through at bed time. Andre, on the other hand, is having to retrain me, teaching me to savor the experience with him. He touches each page and looks at each image taking it all in.
Adapting to each child also means that, while I will treat them equitably, I will not do so equally. I wonder what kind of children, young adults and adults they will become. I wonder what kind of support (or lack of it) they'll require from me and Alain. I wonder. I wonder. I hope I do it well.