I was thinking about my post on the second shift, which refers to the childcare and housechore responsibilities that working moms hold, and started to think about where parenting and marriage fit.
After all, even if I pulled a 40-hour shift at the office, my house is spotless and my children are perfectly groomed and fed, I still have parenting to do and a relationship to keep alive. In the midst of all that work, we pause to read a book, talk out a learning point, monitor and model social behavior, share a laugh and just spend quality time with our children. Yes, some things can be done simultaneously, but it really is tough to get in a nice cuddle when I'm wiping grime off the doors or brushing the downstairs toilet!
Children are at a key point in their lives. If we miss those moments, they are gone forever. It's easy to focus on them and leave the relationship for later. Later sometimes is literally too late, as in I haven't slept in ages and I'm not really up for chatting right now. Maybe just hold hands while we mindlessly watch TV? Funny how it all seems to work itself out anyway. A date night here and there, a miraculous synchronized nap by both kids that leaves an unexpected window of time to have a quiet lunch with adult conversation.
How do you keep your relationship healthy?