Sometimes when a friend becomes a mom, I struggle with how much I should tell her about the difficulties of being a mom. We sit through endless conversations with fellow moms where each tells a funny anecdote, a cute story, or a warming thought. The positive side of motherhood is clear and in the open.
When it comes to the challenges of being a mom, some things are acceptable to talk about: lack of sleep, lack of time, feeding schedules, exploding diapers, projectile vomiting. But what about the feelings that arise, such as feeling inadecuate, guilt over wanting some space, dissapointment when our body does not look like Heidi Klum's after she gave birth.
While I don't think it would be a good idea to overwhelm a new mom with a long narration of negative or challenging feelings, I think it may help her to know that she is not alone and that others struggle with some of the things she may be going through.
What do you share with new moms?